Owning Your Own Body Image


I saw this image on Facebook today and it really started me thinking about body image.  Well, I was kind of already thinking about it, really since weight loss, bariatric surgery, food, my own body image, etc are really all I seem to think about any more.

I look at this image, and I automatically start thinking, “Gee, they forgot a few descriptors for each of these women.”  I mean, seriously, there are endless lists stereotypes to describe both of these women.  All of us make judgements every day about the people we see. 

For the woman on the left you could also add:  Beautiful, Blonde, Air-head, Dumb, Tall, Pretty, Anorexic, Skinny, Popular, Slut.

For the woman on the right you could add: Fat, Chubby, Stupid, Ashamed, Loser, Un-loveable, Lonely.

I’m a woman.  I’m a feminist.  I’m overweight.  I have poor self-image.  And these are the thoughts that go through MY head when I see this image.  I’m certainly not proud of myself for admitting this.  Clearly, on a certain level, I have bought into negative stereotyping.  I also recognize that these identification tags have more about how I see myself than how I view them.  When I look at the woman on the right, I see her as a reflection of how I see myself.  When I look at the woman on the left, I see everything I think I am not.

Can you imagine what someone who much more judgemental thinks?

I know nothing about either of these women.  For all I know, this is a completely computer generated image.  These women may not even exist.  They could be models.  They could be just average women making a point.  But that does not matter.  What matters is what we think about when we look at them.

Women judge themselves as much or more harshly than they judge other women.  My questions then are when do we stop buying into the negativity and false stereotypes foisted on us by a judgemental society that thinks they have the right to own, judge, and define us?  When do we own our bodies?  When do we own our own self-image?  When do we decide who we are?

I don’t know about you, but I’m going to start today.

I am smart.  I am pretty.  I am capable.  I am attractive.  I am independent.  I am proud.  I am happy.  I am a woman.  I am strong.  I am likeable.  I am loveable.  I am healthy.

How about you?

2 responses to “Owning Your Own Body Image

  1. Good Blog, I think that the problem with women these days is that they are soo hard on themselves to the point that all they think about is being like the person who they “think” is in a better situation…or they look better…or because they are skinny everyone likes them more….Constant thoughts such as these are harmful and over time they start to wear and tear at the woman…these words on the body are just stereotypes…the sad part is..that most of the bigger women are kinda mean b/c they are so defensive about their size and afraid to get beat up b/c they cant fit into a size two. I am a nice healthy size 14, do i like to stay this size no….but i am working on that..am i angry at girls who are skinny…ABSOLUTELY NOT!! I’ve been told by girls who were smaller they wish they had some of my features..and my curves….to make clothes look better…having a nice bottom and chest make clothes sometimes….society fails to realize that beating up of women isnt helping anything….but if we all STOPPED WORRYING ABOUT SOCIETY then MAYBE we can get somewhere!

    as far as these women…the one on the left is a beautiful girl, I actually went to school with her and she is the sweetest girl ever….and the girl Danielle looks the same…but they are real people..however Danielle’s body was DEFINITELY altered b/c i went to her website and she is just stunning!! Laura is a tall statuesque model/dancer which gives her a nice physique but I think Danielle being a full figured model just goes to show that not all bigger girls are depressed about their size. Hey, my husband loves my curves. 🙂

    Im glad you are starting to think positive of yourself….be beautiful…:)

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