A couple of my friends called shenanigans on me last night. I wrote the other day about feeling uncomfortable with some of the new attention I have been receiving, especially increased attention from men whether it is compliments, touching, hugging, or being ogled by random men while on a business trip.
Well, last night after my writer’s group several people complimented me on my weight loss. I usually handle that well. Then a guy friend of mine, we’ll call him Bobby, came up to me and complimented the t-shirt I was wearing and said, “You look really good in green, you should wear it more often.” A really nice, neutral, fairly innocuous compliment. My response?
“Oh my hair is just a mess today! I look awful!”
When I said that, another friend, we’ll call her Joanna, jumped in and said, “Oh no, no, no, no, no! That is no way to respond to a compliment! How would you feel if I came up to you and said, ‘I don’t want you to get all bitchy on me Colleen, but you look really good in green.’ Rude huh? That’s basically what you just did to him!”
I turned back to my friend and sheepishly said, “Thank you, Bobby.”
Then a bunch of them spent the rest of the night complimenting me and then applauding when I said “thank you” instead of deflecting the compliment with a self-deprecating comment. One guy even told me I am simply going to have to get used to it because I am apparently a “looker.”
What can I say to that other than I know, right? 🙂
Anyway, this picture of me was taken last week at my training class in Texas, so it is fairly recent.